The other day I was watching Modern Family. In the show, Gloria was mad at Jay for blurting out “oh baby” during his sleep.
Here’s the clip.
I laughed hysterically. I am all too familiar with this type of behavior because not only have I observed the women and some of the men in my family act this way, admittedly, I too, am guilty of acting this way. If there is anything a woman hates, let alone a Latina, it is feeling deceived, unappreciated, and not shown consideration or courtesy. This video reminds me of the breakdown in communication that occurs and complications that arise when we fail to express ourselves and assume the other person knows, or we think they should know, what we need or want.
Part of my vision is to make meaningful connections so I’ve been listening to audiobooks on relatable topics. Common themes I’ve encountered are the importance of honest communication, active listening, and practicing forgiveness-both giving it and asking for it. We open ourselves to deeper, more loving and meaningful relationships when we incorporate these habits into our daily lives.
Lately, I’ve been feeling under appreciated in one of my relationships. When I feel this way, I tend to become distant and cold because it reminds me of certain things I witnessed in my parents’ relationship. I was made aware today that I needed to let go of this past conditioning. I would want the person to say thank you and acknowledge the time, effort, and planning that is invested in a particular activity that I perform. It would be nice too if the person considered acting in a more thoughtful manner. You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to perform thoughtful gestures for others. I would want to know what the other person is feeling too and listen without getting defensive when they are expressing their thoughts. It can be difficult to care for, empathize, and have consideration for others when we have built walls from the bricks of our past hurts. See why forgiveness, honest communication, and active listening are so important? 🙂
I must say, it is nice to have the Pacific Ocean nearby when I meditate and ponder these topics from a space of love. I hope to muster up the courage to talk to the other person about this soon, but I’ll be sure to keep you posted on what happens.
Love fearlessly, forgive frequently, and laugh often friends. Have great week!